My mother used to say that it took me 24 hours to get born, and I've been late ever since! It appears I do not have the same understanding of time as everyone else. The sad truth is that I am late more often than not....all my life! We were late to my best friend's wedding. We were late to my daughter's wedding (but they couldn't start without us....we had the bride!!) I was late for work about 75% of the time for my entire career!!! It drives a lot of friends, bosses, and family absolutely crazy!
But I am NOT always late. In fact, on the one day when one might be expected to be delayed by over-the-top primping and such, I was on time. In fact, we were even a little bit early (not a lot, you understand, but a little.)
Just like Alfie Doolittle ("My Fair Lady"), "Get Me to the Church on Time" was my mantra that day! What day?? Well, my wedding day, of course!
Forty-six years ago today. 46! Years. Ago. Holy shoes and rice, Batman!! 46 years!
It was a very bright and sunny day in Chicago on April 2, 1966 but it was really cold! It looked like Spring but it still felt like Winter. We had to drive from the north side down to the south side, because we were being married in Mikey's home parish (I can't remember why exactly), so we had at least a 45 minute drive to get to the church.
I don't remember whose car we were in. I don't remember who drove. I don't remember who was in the car. I have a vague recollection of sitting alone in the back seat, but I don't think I was really.....maybe it just felt like I was alone. Its a big thing to get married (duh!), but when you are only 19, its monumental.
What was ahead? Was this really a good idea? Would it work out? Would we be happy? Would it last?? Did I really want to be a wife?? Maybe I should just jump out of the car and run away! Very far away!! These kinds of thoughts jumbled around inside my head throughout that long drive. I suppose that is not much different from any other bride (or groom for that matter.)
There I was, little 19 year old me, only weighing about 100 lbs. soaking wet, wearing a borrowed dress, a borrowed veil, wrapped up in a borrowed mink stole (it wasn't as politically incorrect, all those years ago). It felt a little bit like playing dress up.
But it wasn't make believe, it was very real. And it turned out to be the right thing to do, because here we are 46 years later and we are still together. It was was a good idea. And it sure has lasted! We have had a life filled with much happiness, a lot of laughter, a reasonable number of tears, love, caring, a fair amount of worry and sadness, lots of joy, some disappointments.....highs and lows....day after day....for 46 years.
I think they call that a marriage!
Happy Anniversary, Big Guy!